Don’t Judge a book by the cover

… even if it’s got a tatty spine or some pages missing.

A Stereotype – A widely held but fixed and oversimplified image or idea of a particular type of person or thing

We’re all guilty of stereotyping. It’s a trait that we’re all brought up with, whether we like it or not.

I wear glasses all the time, so does that make me a geek?

In a stereotypical world yes it does, but in reality, no it doesn’t.

tatty-bookI have a few bits of paper to prove that I was fairly clever through school and university but the fact of the matter is, if I don’t wear glasses, I won’t be able to see clearly.

It really is that simple.

Taking out of the equation that I have qualifications and a degree, we are all guilty of judging someone on their appearance or how they act or both.

… but why are we so quick to judge? Why are we quick to judge individuals because they’re different to how you act and different to what you’re used to?

A little bit sentimental here, but I know some awesome characters who do not conform to the norm and so what? If we all sung from the same hymn sheet all year round, the world would be pretty mundane wouldn’t it?

If you take anything from this post, take the next bit I say and try and weave it into your everyday life…

If you take the time out to learn more about a person and understand their ways of thinking, it’ll change your way of thinking and your perception of that individual.

It really is that simple.

We live in a world where we can easily insult. Even when we don’t mean it. (I’ve done it many a times, but these examples below do not reflect!)

– You call an someone fat …

… How do you know they don’t have a problem that they can’t help with and they’re dealing with it in their own way?

– You call someone special…

How do you know that you haven’t insulted that person because a member of their family might have a disability?

… Short answer for both, “you don’t”.

The first example, you’ve assumed that because someone is fat, they must eat lots. An automatic assumption, that may not be the case.

pax_2021947b(I’m not saying you need to quiz that person like Paxman would on an edition of Newsnight but there’s an air of making an educated guess)

I’m the first to agree, we all make mistakes. We’re all far from perfect, I’m an advocate for that.

By the way, if you think you’re perfect, take a long hard look at yourself.

Anyway, I have many faults and I’ve been in the wrong more times than I’ve had cooked dinners. Many of my closest friends and colleagues will tell you that. I have learnt though, that assumption is the worst thing that you can do.

I’ve actually noticed it, the more I grow older.

I’m 24 next month.

I don’t shout about my age and quite frankly, I firmly believe that age is just a number.

If people ask my age, I won’t refuse to provide it but what gets me, is that stereotypical view that young people aren’t experienced in their chosen field. What a load of tosh.

When someone asks me questions about what I do for a living and I begin to reel off my life story, 9 times out of 10 I get a surprised reaction.

– “oh my goodness, you’ve done that for how long?”
– “You were how old?”
– “You’re how old now?”

… I could go on and on and on, but I’m not going to.

Don’t judge my book by it’s cover – there’s more to my story than meets the naked eye.

I will say though, that some of the pages of my book have been removed … because they’re the boring bits.